I have often been asked how I found the courage to follow my dreams. It is a question that is very close to my heart. I feel that my life as an artist is an organic one. As such, it is evolving and ongoing. It is not about arriving, but about being. So the immediate answer to this question is, I am in an ongoing, day-to-day process, learning and discovering a deepening courage to live my dreams.
However, I can offer what I have learned so far in finding the courage to follow my bliss. Through the recording of my first record when I was in a co-founded band, prior to my solo career, I would literally go into the vocal booth repeating the three C’s: “I choose Courage, Confidence and Commitment.” This helped me greatly in overcoming the self-deprecating thoughts that would hold me back. I still repeat this three C mantra to this day when I need a little extra boost. The process of finding courage is one that I have been working on, and one that continues to grow.
Singing is my “way in”, the way I feel closest to Source, most connected to the divine, most alive. As such, it is also where I feel the most raw and vulnerable. But I need to go there, because it keeps me real, honest and true. I feel connected through music. It gives my life meaning.
I think that is the way it is with our joy. We can get caught up in things that seem easy, but in fact they end up being harder, because they can squelch the voice of our soul. When we align with our soul, life starts to flow with lightness and possibility. At first it may seem harder, but eventually it is easier.
Like the person who asked me this question, I have several skills and could have had a solid career in a variety of paths other than music. I studied architecture and was part of the co-op program at the University of Waterloo. I was good at it, too. I excelled at school and in the workplace. People thought I would have a great career as an architect.
But morning would come and I was expected to be at my desk at the office. I needed to get up, get dressed and get to work, except a weight that felt like a million-pound truck was lying on top of me. It took immeasurable effort to even simply get out of bed. I was depressed. I was listless. I was unhappy. I could not go on this way. So I had to change.
Rather than doing a Masters in Architecture, which I was generally expected to do, I told my family and friends that I was going to India and to not expect me back for five years. A year later (not five, providing my family with much relief), I returned. But I had changed. I had begun the process of letting go of living for other people’s dreams and listening to my own soul voice, which continues to flower and guide my way.
So I ask you, whose voices are driving your life? Take a moment today to ask yourself sincerely, “what drives my life?” If you feel it is not the voice of your soul, perhaps it is time to do some inner housecleaning and start living the life you were born to live.
Known as the Positive Possibilities Lady, Parvati inspires magnificence through music, yoga, words and activism. An award-winning musician, Parvati brings joy and hope to top 40 radio with her celestial pop songs “I Am Light”, “Yoga in the Nightclub”, and “Shanti Om”. Founder of “YEM: Yoga as Energy Medicine” and author of “Confessions of a Former Yoga Junkie: A Revolutionary Life Makeover for the Sincere Spiritual Seeker”, Parvati has been featured on radio and television talk shows and news and wellness magazines globally. She is the founder of Parvati, a not-for profit dedicated to realizing MAPS: The Marine Arctic Peace Sanctuary to help stop global warming. More about MAPS, free YEM videos, self-help articles, her music and more at parvati.tv and parvati.org