We tend to think of painful things as mistakes and the good stuff as luck. Or perhaps we think of what we like as grace, a gift from beyond, and things we don’t like as a curse. However we choose to see the moment and understand our life, at some point we ask, what is grace? Do we have control over it? How can we amplify it? Where does it come from?
Many of us are walking around through our days wanting life to be different, wondering why it is not. There is tremendous unhappiness in the world and we contribute to it through our disconnected states. A fog can run through our mind and seep into our day, as though somehow we are just not quite there. In essence, we are not. We are lost in wanting, in thoughts about what could be or what was, rather than what is. We resist what we feel and deny the happenings in our lives, looking the other way. But beneath the denial the feelings and events continue.
Living in this foggy disconnect is a way in which we have not quite rooted into our being on the Earth, tapped into the vitality of this moment, and expanded to meet what is. If we are going to give thanks, we need to feel connected to this moment. If we are going to connect to this moment, then we need to look at what this moment brings.
If this moment brings tension, see it as grace. If this moment brings expansion, see it as grace. See all as grace. When you see all as grace, you stop resisting and begin to expand beyond the limited confines of your ego and tap into the vastness of pure consciousness. You begin to remember that you are not the doer, but a vehicle for the divine.
The habit of thinking we are in control is very deep in our psyche. We think life is happening “to me” and we are “in charge”. This leads to inevitable disappointment, which results in suffering. When we realize that all is grace, we feel grateful for what is. Think about it. You breathe. You are alive. What force is keeping your body that way? Really think about it. What force? Is it not amazing?
This life provides us with such riches, yet we can easily overlook them because we are busy wanting something from the future or the past. We miss the here and now. We take the simplest things for granted, but they are there only because of grace.
Here is a practice to reconnect with the wonder of grace:
- Go outside for a walk. Take a look more closely at the immense complexity of life, the many layers and intricacies in all that you see.
- Take a moment to deeply inquire into the question: what force runs through it all?
- Then, take three long, deep breaths and know that you are a part of it all. You are a part of and lovingly held within that force.
- Allow that thought to sink in deeply and bring about a feeling of awe.
- Feel yourself rooted in the moment, vital with the force of life, and expansive as you open to receive the grace that always is.
- The tremendous power of gratitude is just waiting for you to breathe it all in and know that you are loved.
- Stay with this feeling as long as you choose. Then take three more long, deep breaths. Inhale the grace that you are and the grace that is all around. Exhale a wish for ease and peace to all beings, including yourself.
Parvati is an award-winning musician (I Am Light, Electro Yog, Yoga In The Nightclub), yogini (YEM: Yoga as Energy Medicine), author (Aonani of Avalon, Three Supreme Secrets for Lasting Happiness) and founder of the not-for-profit Parvati.org. All her work is dedicated to protecting all life on Earth by establishing the Marine Arctic Peace Sanctuary (MAPS).More info: parvati.tv; parvati.org.