Meditation: Everyone Wants To Be Loved, by Parvati Devi
Compassion is born in our being when we rest in the knowing of our inherent oneness with all that is. It flowers as our ego dies and we are born into the reality of our eternal Self. It is a divine nectar that flows effortlessly when we are willing to let go of the stories that keep us feeling separate, important and ultimately alone.
As your heart continues to bloom and you release the grip of your ego, here are some powerful thoughts I ask you to consider. Find a quiet place and allow yourself to go deeper with these:
Say to yourself with conviction and power: “Everyone wants to be loved.”
Repeat this a few times and let it sink in. Let yourself rest into the truth of these words. Then state:
“Everyone wants to be loved. And everyone fears they will not be loved.”
Think about it. Think about that some more. Breathe it in. Let it resonate.
“Everyone wants to be loved and everyone fears they will not be.”
Apply that thought to someone who pushes your buttons, perhaps your boss. Think of him or her that way, just wanting love, fearing he or she will not be. Then think of how you want to feel loved. Perhaps, you two are not that different.
Think of your mother or father that way, just wanting love, fearing they will not be. Try to feel the fear your mother or father has, and know you too feel the same. Perhaps, you are not so different. The love you seek is also the love they want. The fear you have that you won’t find love, is also the very same fear they have.
Think of your friends and other family members that same way. See the way they hope for love, the way they feel disconnected from love, the way they do love. Where is the love in all these relationships? In which way do you love?
It may not be so much, perhaps, about how much love you get, but about what you give. When you see yourself, the fears, the hopes, the desires you have for love, in others, when you see you are not that different, then perhaps love blossoms, like a flower in the mud. We are left full, feeling connected, loved, even in the face of adversity.
Now think of yourself. Touch that place of “I just want to be loved, and I fear I will not be.” It is deep. It has been there likely a very long time. Perhaps it was exacerbated by your mother, or your father, or someone else. It is a belief you carry. No one made it. It is yours. If it is yours, then you can heal it. Since you are the one holding on to it, you can let it go.
In my experience, we all have a deep place within where we fear that we will not be loved. Sometimes, around that raw and fragile feeling, is the feeling of vacant hopelessness. But this will not last. Beyond all these painful, dry, and desolate places is a fountain of unending love. The goodness of life is within even the most desolate times if we allow ourselves to settle in and open, patiently, to the flowering spring. The force of life emerges again and again, without compromise. It simply is. Beyond our fear of not being loved, is love. In our fear of not being loved, is love. Around our fear of not being loved, is love. The fear itself is love, as it shows us our very humanity, our potential for openness, receptivity to that which I would simply call Grace… the force that is beyond our ego’s grasp and comprehension.
When we are willing to rest, in stillness, quietly, without fighting, with this fear of not being loved, we find tremendous creativity. It is in some ways the linchpin of the psyche that moves us from the grip of the ego into a place of oneness and compassion. Rest there, and you will find love, and all will change.
Parvati Devi is the editor-in-chief of Parvati Magazine and an internationally recognized Canadian musician, yogi and new thought leader. As a chart-topping touring musician, Parvati spearheads the Post New-Age musical genre with her independent success hit single “Yoga in the Nightclub”. She founded YEM: Yoga as Energy Medicine, a powerful yoga method that combines energy work and yoga poses. Her critically acclaimed self-help debut book “Confessions of a Former Yoga Junkie – A Revolutionary Life Makeover for the Sincere Spiritual Seeker” is currently in its third edition.