When we contemplate the ways in which we are attached to doing in order to feel a sense of purpose, we quickly see that we are habituated into thinking that we are the very force that gives us life. We may have lost sight of the life force that flows through us to sustain us in each moment. We have forgotten that we are in essence that very flow.
Going with the flow is not passive, but an intelligent recalibration of the notion of who or what is doing. We usually think “I” – a divided sense of self – is the doer. As such, we feel compelled to take charge of this moment, which somehow we perceive as against us. Yet all the while, we are lovingly supported within a compassionate and wise whole.
The notion of surrender, acceptance or “going with the flow” may sound like a resignation of our will, But there is deep, contemplative wisdom in being able to choose such ease. The choice is based on understanding the nature of reality, the way in which we are vastly interconnected, never separate, always within grace.
Flow is not blind and listless, but active and awake. It is a flow-er-ing of consciousness within you as it dances effortlessly within the whole. You, your ego-self, has gotten out of the way. This way of living is about being in service to the creative flow, a force greater than your individual ego or will. This force is not about you, but arises through you. You are witness to its unfolding. It can have a wide range of expressions, from a gentle lapping wave, to a huge tsunami.
The other day, as I was walking to my gym, my husband noticed a brawl taking place in the park up ahead. A group surrounded someone who was being beaten up. As soon as I noticed this, an energy arose through me that led to me running faster than I ever have down two blocks, right into the center of the fight consisting of five men and one woman. A fierce presence, like a karate cry, arose through me as it commanded everyone to step back and break it up. This force took over, and had only one objective: disperse the violence to ensure safety for all. At no point did I engage in anger, or even physically touch anyone. The energy alone took care of all that was needed. I was just the body through which it arose. Once everyone was safe, I walked away, back to what felt more like my normal self.
Flow is about life force, which moves, sustains and arises through us in each moment, when we are willing to co-create with it. But it is never about us. Any sense of self that may think it is the force doing, feeds our ego and our sense of being divided from the whole. Of this, we must be careful.
Though flow has many expressions, it always feels rooted, vital and expansive, whether it is gentle or fierce. It will neither be pushy nor a push-over. It is always a balanced expression of interconnection within the whole.
Contrary to what many of us may habitually perceive, life is not happening “to” you. You are an active co-creator in actualizing what is. Try this meditation to help you embrace the possibility of going with flow in each moment:
Find a quiet place to sit relaxed without the risk of falling asleep. Allow your spine to be straight, but not rigid. It is best not to lean against pillows, a wall or the back of a chair.
Breathe into your belly, allowing the rhythm of the breath to bring your mind deeper into this moment, into your body, into the feeling of the here and now.
Scan your body from the crown of your head to your toes. Without any force, go deeper into yourself.
Breathe in, feel the air and life force feed your body/being. Breathe out, feel the ease of the release. Know that the air you breathe is also connected to all of life.
Feel that interconnection between you, life and all things. Feel the immense possibility of life itself. While remaining present to the sensations within your body and the flow of your breath, allow your awareness to expand, to open to this life force that is in you, around you, everywhere. Stay rooted in your body by still feeling the ground, your breath, and include the expansive awareness you also feel. Allow yourself to open to receive this possibility in this moment. Feel it in your breath and in your cells. While you rest in that presence, say to yourself: “I am. I am. I am.” Feel the possibility of ease and flow, your effortless interconnection within and without.
Feel the ease, flow and interconnection in your whole being. Repeat it as though you were feeding your cells with this lush, rich, awareness.
Should your mind wander to distractions, such as physical tensions, or lingering thoughts, simply notice them and bring your awareness back to your breath. Allow yourself to rest in the words “I am”. Repeat them until you feel you have had enough. Then gently open your eyes, and allow yourself to move back into your daily life with ease and flow.
For more about living life in the Positive Possibilities, please enjoy my article Be Flow-er.
Parvati Devi is the editor-in-chief of Parvati Magazine and an internationally recognized Canadian musician, yogi and new thought leader. As a chart-topping touring musician, Parvati spearheads the Post New-Age musical genre with her independent success hit single “Yoga in the Nightclub”. She founded YEM: Yoga as Energy Medicine, a powerful yoga method that combines energy work and yoga poses. Her critically acclaimed self-help debut book “Confessions of a Former Yoga Junkie – A Revolutionary Life Makeover for the Sincere Spiritual Seeker” is currently in its third edition.