Positive Possibilities: Three Steps and Three Touchstones for Wise Decisions, by Parvati Devi
Here are three steps and three touchstones to help you make empowered decisions in your life so that you can create the life you love. Take a moment as you read to contemplate and integrate each one.
1. YES, YOU CAN
The arc of your life is not necessarily created by the big choices you face. It is often built upon the smaller choices you make every day. What food to eat, what people you engage, what clothes you wear, or what thoughts you think, you face thousands of decisions in every moment. When you run on autopilot and avoid making conscious choices about even these seemingly simple things, you miss a powerful opportunity to create the life you love. Be aware that in each moment you can make empowering decisions. This is your first step to creating a life you love.
2. IN EACH MOMENT YOU HAVE CHOICE
Your next step in making empowering decisions is realizing that in every situation you do have choice. It may not seem like it. You may feel trapped, helpless, frustrated or out of control. But the idea that you have no choice is an illusion. Even when faced with things you don’t like or situations in which you feel powerless, you can still choose to either let go of your attachment to them, or move beyond the feeling of being without choice and learn profound acceptance. Choice always exists.
3. THE ESSENTIAL QUESTION
Once you accept that you have choice and feel inspired to embrace that power in each moment, you can take the next step in making great decisions. Here are three words that you can use as touchstones to change your life. Use them whenever you face decisions of any kind. Ask yourself: “Does this choice make me feel rooted, vital and expansive?”
Before you act on any decision, you must feel that it meets all three conditions. The choice must ring true as rooted, vital and expansive for it to move you in a healthy direction. How come?
ROOTED, VITAL AND EXPANSIVE
Rootedness is a reflection of your connection to your body, in this moment, to the planet, here and now. When rooted, you feel a downward flow of energy through your legs and into the ground. You feel present without feeling heavy or stuck. It is an energetic expression of how anchored your soul is in your body and to the physical reality in which you find yourself. Any decision that is not rooted will lead to feeling unsupported, undernourished, and disconnected in some way. You will eventually suffer. You see rootedness in nature when you look at a flower or a tree. In order to survive, they have healthy roots in the ground.
Vitality is an expression of aliveness. When you feel vitality in your body regarding a decision, you will sense warmth in your belly that rises upward. You will feel animated, awake, dynamic, and cognizant when you think about the possible choice to make. This shows you that the decision is viable, functional and sustainable. You see a healthy sense of vitality in nature when you look at a flower or a tree. The tree’s trunk, roots and branches or the flower’s roots, stem and petals carry the vital energy throughout the living organism so it can maintain health. Vitality without rootedness and expansion is like an uncontained flame. You will get burnt.
Expansion is like the upward and open movement of the flower and branches. The petals are open to the sky. The leaves open to the wind and light. But without the roots and vitality, the flower and the leaves cannot exist. They are unsustainable. You feel expansive when you feel an electricity zing through your body, mostly in your upper body. It is as though there is wind in your proverbial sails and energizing breath in your lungs, when you think of the decision to be made. But too much zing without rootedness and vitality can lead you astray with ungrounded and non-viable ideas.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
Whole and sound decisions need to support nature and be an expression of your natural self. As such, they will be rooted, vital and expansive. You may have made a decision at some point in your past that you regretted or didn’t feel great about. Such decisions are not necessarily mistakes, but can become compost for the budding flowers of your life, if you are willing to be self-compassionate and embrace change.
Learning new habits takes time. So when you are learning to ask yourself if a decision makes you feel rooted, vital and expansive, be patient. Give yourself the time to find a quiet place and tune in. No matter how good an offer seems, if it does not meet these three touchstones, then it is best to let it go.
Parvati Devi is the editor-in-chief of Parvati Magazine and an internationally recognized Canadian musician, yogi and new thought leader. As a chart-topping touring musician, Parvati spearheads the Post New-Age musical genre with her independent success hit single “Yoga in the Nightclub”. She founded YEM: Yoga as Energy Medicine, a powerful yoga method that combines energy work and yoga poses. Her debut self-help book “Confessions of a Former Yoga Junkie – A Revolutionary Life Makeover for the Sincere Spiritual Seeker” is forthcoming in 2016.