No matter what your personal belief system or unique soul expression may be, relationships are generally governed by a few fundamental spiritual principles. To me, they are:
That which I do to myself, I do to all beings.
The way I treat another is the way I treat myself.
When I choose the highest good, that which feels rooted, vital and expansive in the moment, everybody wins.
When I serve the creative flow, that which is beyond my ego, I support evolution in myself and in all beings.
What are your relationship needs? I invite you now to take a moment for yourself. Find a quiet place, with a pen and paper in hand and consider this question. The following are my own answers. I have written them in the present tense as a way to affirm the choices I make in them. You are welcome to feel inspired by my list to create your own.
1) Supporting basic needs:
I choose to cultivate relationships that support my basic needs, such as food and shelter. With this foundation, I support and feel supported in my I AM evolution, which supports all beings being rooted in I AM.
2) Emotional support:
I choose to cultivate relationships where I feel emotionally supported in me being beautifully and uniquely myself. Through listening and feeling received, I feel there is room for me to express my needs and to be heard doing so. There is room to follow my creative flow and to express in my unique way.
3) Healthy Boundaries:
I choose to cultivate relationships that respect my boundaries. I feel I can be myself. I have the space I need to heal, to grow and to learn. We respect each other’s needs equally, sharing with kindness.
4) Cultivating Joy
I choose to cultivate relationships where there is heart, learning to live with compassion for all beings. The heart is like a joy flower. Its very nature is joy just as my essential nature is joy. Sharing from the heart, we are witness to and receive each other’s magnificence.
5) Having a voice:
I choose to cultivate relationships where everyone has the right to express their needs, feelings, dreams and ideas. I feel heard and respected when I give voice to what I wish to express. My relationships support the right for myself and all beings to have a voice.
6) To see and be seen:
I choose to cultivate relationships where I am seen as I am, not as another may want me to be. My sight and insights are received and respected. I am supported in clearly seeing that which is.
7) Supporting evolution
I choose to be in relationships that support my soul’s evolution. By support my soul’s evolution, I support all beings evolving. In this way, my relationships support self-less service to all beings everywhere.
What is your list? Take your time to consider what is important for you in relationships.
May we all cultivate balanced joy, love, service and expansion in all of our relationships so that all beings everywhere may be happy.
Parvati Devi is an award-winning musician (“I Am Light”, “Electro Yog”, “Yoga In The Nightclub”), yogini (YEM: Yoga as Energy Medicine), author (“The Grace Mindset”, “Aonani of Avalon”, “The Three Supreme Secrets for Lasting Happiness”) and founder of the not-for-profit Parvati.org. All her work is dedicated to protecting all life on Earth by establishing the Marine Arctic Peace Sanctuary (MAPS). More info: parvati.tv and parvati.org.